I Am Not Going To Shit In Your Ears!! Life Is F#$%ing Hard !!
Starting your fitness journey will not be easy, you will face some serious obstacles, you may even face ridicule from friends and family but you will also find support so it is not all DOOM and GLOOM. Mostly it is going to be a battle between you, and you alone…. Trust me you will think what is this guy on about a battle between me and me alone, I can’t work out my husband/wife/girlfriend/partner/kids STOP with the excuses, these people can still have your time and you can still have time for you, the battle starts with you and eliminating the excuses that you MAKE, no one else is making excuses for you… you keep putting your life on hold for what ? for what others may think, say or even do ? you are afraid of this and this is a battle you have to have with your mentality and your structure.
Your journey is never going to be easy and we, as humans, over time have forgotten that in order to achieve something for ourselves we need to be a little selfish. Instead we feel guilty and ashamed for being selfish, ashamed for putting ourselves first, especially with our health and fitness, sometimes in our relationships we are told that we are being selfish so we believe it and sacrifice for others happiness, we bury our heads in the sand and accept it, but for what ? Unhappiness, Guilt, fuck that shit we deserve to be what we desire to be, we deserve to achieve what we want to achieve, we shouldn’t be accepting less than the best for ourselves and we all have a different view of what is the best for us and that is ok, that’s our we see the world, that’s our right.
Time is Something you have more control over than you may think.
Just a handful of excuses you might not think matter or in this case matter because you allow one or all of them to dictate your outcome.
Money (I can’t afford it)
Time (I just don’t have time)
My Partner (doesn’t like me going to a personal trainer)
My Kids (they have basketball, soccer, footy,)
It’s Too Hard (*Not wrong its hard, its fucking not a walk in the park)
Its Too Cold, Too Hot, Too Windy, Too Dark
when you read the next blog I will talk about myself and my journey you’ll come to know and understand I am not really patient for excuses, because if it’s absolutely important to you and it’s absolutely a MUST you will eliminate the manufactured excuses you have or are about to make them up… Most people will look for a reason NOT TO DO before they find a reason TO DO and if you are reading this you aren’t most people, you’ll be that one in a million that finds a reason TO DO !!
So find time, I am busy, so am I, I am writing this blog, preparing to go to Ballet lesson #1 and then heading on to the school where I will pick up my 6 year old daughter, then I will head home have a shower, go to Ballet lesson #2, come home to have dinner and then go to my Group Fitness session where I will spend an hour and a half with some awesome people that I get to call friends and clients :) then it will be 730pm ish and I will head to the gym where NOW I spend the next 45 minutes in my own ZONE, for me, it's my time, its thirty minutes of selfish, unapologetic time for me and my personal health and well-being because I know not only by lifting heavy and doing some huffy puffy exercises that I get physically fitter, stronger and healthier it also transcends into my mental health and well-being and if that is selfish than so be it and it is what it is :)
It wasn’t always like that, or like this should I say, it was well where you are now the person reading this, wondering who is this guy, and what does he stand for as he allows himself to express himself off the page through his feelings, swearing and his honest approach. I was like you once and I am still like you, I still have moments where I feel guilty and selfish but I also have more moments where I feel amazing about taking the time out for ME and MY goals, MY health, MY well-being. I used to have all the excuses in the world, all of them. But I accepted that this is what I have to do and this how I have to do it, and this is when I do it….. And sometimes I do not go to the GYM that’s fucking life, shit happens and I never beat myself up about it. I close my eyes and remember tomorrow is a new day and tomorrow I will do better and 9/10 times I hit the gym harder, stronger, sweatier and walk out WRECKED knowing that yesterday didn’t and doesn’t matter because the effort I applied today was FAR greater and I just fucking killed it on my time, in my zone, in my arena.
So yes becoming fitter, stronger, healthier is going to be a WAR torn battle between you and your demons, some days you will win the battle and guess what some days you will lose it and lose hard, heavy and you might feel shit but remember TOMORROW is a new day and you got to just give a little more to win the next battle. A line I heard recently sums this up by Gary Vee and that’s “You’re only as good as your last bat” meaning forget yesterday even if it was GREAT even if it was SHIT forget it because today is the opportunity to rise above that effort and produce more and give more and become more.
So go one get out of here and GO achieve what you desire.
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